Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose by Ayala Malach Pines

By Ayala Malach Pines

Falling in Love is the 1st e-book to free up the mysteries of ways and why we fall in love. popular psychologist Ayala Pines exhibits us why we fall for the folk we do, and argues convincingly that we like neither accidentally nor through accident. She deals sound recommendation for making the correct offerings in terms of this complex emotion. jam-packed with worthy feedback for these looking love and people already in it, this publication is set love's many puzzles.

The moment version furthers the paintings of the preferred and profitable first variation. With increased learn, conception, and perform, this booklet once more presents exceptional understandings of the adventure of love.  the hot variation bargains up-to-date references to fresh study, new bankruptcy workouts, and "case examples" of romantic tales to start every one chapter.

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Again, the results showed that what most influenced the formation of close personal ties between the students was not their compatibility, but their physical proximity. 5 And, when a group of new recruits to a police academy were asked about their best friend, most described a person whose last name started with the same letter as 6 FALLING IN LOVE theirs. The reason? Assignments to rooms and classroom chairs were made according to last names. This meant that the recruit’s roommate and neighbor in class was someone whose last name started with the same letter.

We all know the phenomenon of love on the rebound, when someone who has just come out of a long or significant relationship jumps immediately into another one. Feeling vulnerable and lonesome, the person has a difficult time being alone and is desperate to be coupled again. Folk wisdom warns against love on the rebound because it is seen as fragile and temporary. The threat of death precipitates the phenomenon of war love. In Israel during the Gulf War, this phenomenon affected couples who had just met, couples of long-standing whose relationships were cemented by the war, and divorced or separated couples who reunited after spending long hours in shelters.

Could we develop liking, attraction, and comfort because we know we are going to spend time with a certain person? If we know that we are going to meet a certain person often—because he is going to work next to us, study in the same class, or live next door—do we not have a vested interest in seeing him as warm, pleasant, and friendly? After all, who wants daily contact with someone who is cold, nasty, and uncooperative? Once we convince PR OXIMIT Y: THE HIDDEN M ATCHM AKER 9 ourselves that a person is warm, friendly, and pleasant, we treat him as such, which makes him respond in a way that confirms our expectations.

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